Ahh men, we "Love You" and we truly mean it! You're amazing creatures, you can tend to do a couple things that get on our last nerves. No, we aren't referring to your smart ass remarks or your disturbing jokes, involving gross bodily functions. We're referring to some more serious things, you may not even realize you're doing, but they could be harming your relationship. Relationships aren't easy for anyone, nobody has a magic 8 ball, we don't come with instruction manuals (not that you would read them anyway! Ha!;) every relationship is different, but these are the consistent complaints that we hear from women.
This is so key with women, if you aren't consistent you send mixed signals. Mixed signals will not only have her questioning the whole situation, but it will make life a lot harder for you. There's a difference between busy and lack of consistency, you can be the busiest person in the world, yet remain consistent. If you want to stay in the situation, make that known, actions always speak louder than words. If a woman always gets words, with no actions, pretty soon the words become meaningless.
Don't Make Her Guess...About Anything
Yes we are grown, we can ask questions, but when it comes to how you feel and important information, you need to communicate that to us. If she is important to you, don't leave her in the dark. Anything from what's upsetting you, to work stresses, life stresses, your angry at her or simply saying "I love" we NEED to hear about it. Nobody should have to guess, about anything!
Have Your Life Together
No one person is perfect, we all have things that we're dealing with at any given time, life is messy. There isn't such thing as perfect, we definitely don't expect that, BUT you should have your life together enough, as to not burden the other person.
Careful With Comfort
It's inevitable, you will get comfortable, you should get comfortable around your significant other, but you need to be very careful that you're still being attentive, there isn't room for complacency, she will surely follow in your lead. Comfort brings less compliments, less manners and less special time for you both to connect. Women need to feel as though they're still what makes your world go round, like when it was fresh and new. Think of one way a day that you can remind her that you're crazy about her, one way a day to make her feel special. The same as you like to be appreciated, made to feel that she supports you, and loves you unconditionally.
Having the attitude that "it's easier to ask for forgiveness, than it's to ask for permission!" We aren't saying that "you have to ask for permission" you all know those things or topics, that you would like her to talk about with you, before she goes out and does them.
^ This is a terrible idea, what 'man conference' did ya'll get this from? Do you like life or how about sex?
Sometimes you have no idea this is even an issue, and yes “Baby I miss you” works most of the time, but as women we get sick of missing the other half of our relationship. It takes two, it isn’t complete without you, relationships need both parties to have good attendance for it to continue.
Own Your Behaviors
If you're angry about something, say it! Don't pussy foot around about it, then pretending that you weren't angry. Just like you know the person you’re in a relationship with, as women so do we, changes in behavior or body language is easily seen.
Careful threatening to end the relationship- one day she may just take you up on it.
Don't Move Too Fast
If you're used to being in a relationship, don't assume that your new relationship is as advanced as your last one. B present in the new relationship, enjoy the newness, letting things advance at the right speed, on there own time. Remember it's *New! Don't put long term relationship weight on a new relationship, you'll find the load is too heavy.
She Isn't Your Ex
Don't put all the last woman's issues on her, wait.... didn't we just talk about this!? http://www.blovebfitbbeautiful.com/2013/08/b-men-shes-not-your-ex-dont-let-last.html
B The Man, So We Can B The Woman
You may find we talk about the importance of this a lot, there's a reason for that. Defined roles, are key in any relationship.
Do Not Assume...Anything!
Don't B A Pest
Early on you figure out where someone's buttons are, just because you find them, doesn't mean you should intentionally push them. You have a better chance of finding snow in the desert, than you do being a successful pest.
Don't make decisions by yourself, that involve you both as a couple.
As always everything goes both ways, we're in no way saying "that women get a free ride, because they definitely don't" a successful relationship requires 100/100. No person is ever perfect, as women we have our faults also, no two people are ever the same there are going to be things that annoy you also, we're aware. Most of these seem like pretty minor issues, but left uncorrected they can shake up an entire relationship, this is a place where you want to leave your ego and stubbornness at the door. I don't know of many relationship issues that can't B fixed (with the exception of abuse, be it physical, alcohol, sex, or drug related) if both people are willing to communicate with each other and do the work!
Relationships are never easy, I don't believe that they're supposed to be, it's a time of learning new things about yourself, your partner and growing as a person. Finding the love of your life, so very worth it!