Since we seem to be on a sexual theme with B Men, with articles from Thursday & Friday being about women and orgasm.
B Men: Female Orgasm, Not As Elusive As It Was Once Made Out To B
Manifesting Change On The Faking Of Orgasms
We thought it was time to put an end to the whole "sexual rating system." As women we do hear other women, complaining that "so and so SUCKED in bed!" men do it also so no finger pointing allowed. Ha! :)
I just recently saw a link for an app that is for rating men sexually, which does tend to stir a little anger in me. The saddest part, is that other women buy into it and perpetuate it. It ISN'T women vs men!
As women we're always wanting equality, which I'm totally for, yet when it comes to a sexual experience, a woman can sit back, telling the world that some guy sucked in bed.
Since when did a sexual experience rest solely on a man's shoulders, to rock a woman's world?! Does that not lead one to think that a woman must have not had the chance to be an EQUAL participant?
As a woman isn't it your responsibility to know what you like, being proactive about figuring out your own body, knowing how you like to be touched and where? Not sending men in blind, is part of our mission at BBB, but we also expect women to step up, basically to help themselves.
A man will straight up tell you what he likes and doesn't like, just ask one. This doesn't mean we expect women to go all dominatrix on men, well unless they're both into it, then in that case, go for it.
My point, for both men and women, before you let the words roll off of your tongue that someone is "bad in bed" know that it's a direct reflection on YOU, and your sexual prowess. A sexual experience is only as good or as bad, as the 2 individuals that are involved.
If there is something that you aren't liking about a sexual experience, change it. Most men are more than willing to do anything, to make that experience a great one for you. If he isn't concerned about the experience that you're partaking in, he's the wrong guy. Period! Men take great pride in knowing that they can please a woman.
Sexual insults, like any other insults, aren't ok. Often you hear the most sexual insults in heated arguments or the ending of relationship, both sexes do it however, it does appear to be very commonly used against men. A man's sexual ego is held close, this is why it becomes an easy target. Insults about a man's penis size or performance are not only unfair as we stated here, but it reflects on you as a person. The old saying "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" rings true here, when it comes to heated situations, before it ever comes to slinging insults back and forth you need to walk away from said unhealthy situation, till cooler heads prevail.
If you're in a relationship where your sexual needs aren't being met in the manner you would like, you need to communicate with your partner, introduce them to things that you do like. If you don't open the sexual lines of communication with your partner, addressing the issue, the only person you have to blame for your dissatisfying sexual experiences, is yourself.
BBB Tip: When addressing sexual concerns, it's best to offer suggestions on what you would like or would like to try, rather than to just stating that you don't like A, B and C. Offer suggestions or alternative ways of doing things. You do have to use constructive terminology, as to not insult your partner. If you don't know what could be done differently, do your own research.