Your Guide To Meeting 'HER' Family This Holiday Season
Or At Least How To Really Impress Them ;)
It's the holiday season, that leaves us with endless amounts of parties, dinners with family as well as close friends. This also means that a lot of gentlemen (and ladies)out there will be a plus one at many of these gatherings...possibly even for the first time.
This is a little guide that will give you the tips to be the best, and quite possibly the star of these events, all thanks to BBB
Do Your Research
So this one is fairly simple, you probably already have a good amount of knowledge about her family, but this is a VERY crucial step. Don't get us wrong, this isn't something you should obsess over or cause to run out and buy or fill out note cards, that you study the night before.
Have knowledge of names, relation, current events, whether they are tragic ones or happy ones, also rules/values the family is strict on, that doesn't mean any of this needs to be what you follow, but first and foremost this is a thing of respect.
There is nothing like dead awkward silence at a dinner table or when everyone is gathered in the living room because the new guy brought up "that topic" pay attention when she speaks of any family drama, and don't be afraid to ask her about conversations/topics to avoid, if you feel the need.
Got your research done?? Good, there are just a few more steps...
Bring A Gift But Don't Over Do It
Okay, this one doesn't always need to be at the top of your list, it isn't the most important, but holiday parties and events related to that for the first few times it's a nice gesture that says "Thank you for welcoming me to your home". Think a nice bottle of wine/liquor, box of chocolates, flowers, even a gift basket would work. You don't need to break the bank for an impressive gift, because it's not about the gift, it's just the thought counts here.
Is there one? Don't be afraid to ask, then you won't be showing up looking all out of place in your tux, when everyone else is casual and vice versa. If you are a great dresser anyway, then follow your own sense of style, because that is where you will feel the most comfortable and at ease. If you have to purchase a suit, please do it sooner rather than later, spend the extra cash to get it tailored to you, there is nothing worse than a man in an ill fitting suit.
Find Your Comfort As Soon As Possible
We don't mean the kick off your shoes and wear your old sweatpants comfort, more along the lines of being able to express yourself, letting your personality shine, letting whoever that is surrounding you get to the version of you that 'she' is so crazy about. The person you are, can impress just fine on its own, plus everyone will be able to sense the disingenuous factors easily.
Again ask her in advance re: the careers of her parents, siblings, family and friends that will be attending. We also big on finding out favorite sports teams, simply because there is a lot that you can bond over.
When we meet new people, you never get a second chance to make a great impression. An easy way to make a great impression, even with the hardest of sells, is to ask a person about themselves, career, passions, favorite teams etc. People do generally like to talk about themselves. To making a great impression it is more about how the other person feels in your presence. Find common ground like a conversation that you can contribute to and even excel at, without being stressed about what is coming out of your mouth. Once you get over that first jump..it should be smooth sailing!
Topics To Avoid
Topics to avoid at all costs; politics and religion, because people tend to be very passionate about both, there isn't usually a gray area. The last thing you want is an argument over your first festive dinner or party.
The way that everyone interacts together. If you cuss like a sailor, you should probably hold back if that isn't the general consensus in how everyone else is communicating.
Offer To Help With Clean Up
Any good guest offers to help with clean up , it's common courtesy 101! Honestly, you'll probably get a "No". Once again, it's the 'thought' that counts.
There are 2 main things that her family/friends will be on the lookout for;
1. HOW you treat her.
2. That you're being yourself.
It doesn't matter if you're just meeting them for the first time or getting to know them better, those are the 2 most essentials things that you need to be aware of, when stepping into this world. We hope that you found our tips helpful in navigating the dreaded first meet of family over the upcoming holiday season. Did we miss anything? Feel free to contribute, we love passing great information onto our readers.