Chivalry, since the beginning of time - until it's tragic end in the 21st century...
" Because it kept the world from modernizing in male and female roles."
" Umm modern times "
"Women hate chivalry and now find it creepy"
"It's final appearance was on a date that went bad, when it was made a rule that if you're a women that believes in feminism, that means a gentleman can't hold the door for you or buy you dinner on a date. Because what this gentleman really is trying to say is that "you're too weak as a women to open your own door or don't make enough money to pay for dinner. "
That is just some of the numerous negative untrue opinions out there, on the topic of chivalry, but lucky for you, YOU have BBB, to break down some 'need to know' points on the topic, giving you an edge on the competition
Some Don't Expect It, So It's Not Required Right?
Chivalry shouldn't be reserved just to impress someone, while yes, it does tend to have that effect, that shouldn't be your only motivation. Just because someone doesn't expect something, doesn't mean you shouldn't put in the extra effort or bring it to the table, as one of the numerous great qualities you have. This should be a way of lifestyle, a life improvement instead of a temporary filter you put onto yourself. If it's just a show that discounts everything...
It should be for yourself first, before you use this to woo a woman
Opening Doors Is Far From Antiquated
The most popular chivalrous tasks are things like opening doors, pulling out chairs, ordering for her a dinner, hailing a cab, carrying her bags, offering your seat to her if there isn't any left, sharing your umbrella or holding hers and respect in general. Sure some of these are a little out dated and not common practice for the most part, but don't be afraid to put your own modern twist on it or take opportunities when they are given to be chivalrous
Chivalry does still exist, hopefully it always will, whether it's expect or not accepted!
This isn't something that is meant to be an argument on which sex has more power, grant or even lessen the power of someone else in the relationship, but it's main meaning should be as gesture of appreciation, respect, like and love for the person you're being chivalrous to.
As a man, it's in your DNA to be a protector/provider, the one act of chivalry that I don't see a lot of but look for frequently is when a couple is walking down the street, or seated in a restaurant booth, I'm talking about the man walking on the outside of the street, in a restaurant the woman sitting on the inside of a bench seat. I do notice that a lot of men, do continue with sitting with their back to a wall in a restaurant setting, making it easy for him to scan the room for threats implied or real. Women really do like to feel that they're protected, no matter how strong/independent that she is, more so if she is really independent, a woman that will allow you to protect her, does trust you very highly.
To be able to be vulnerable to a man is a great sign of strength/confidence on a woman's part. A woman that knows who she is doesn't see a man that's being chivalrous as a threat, or de-womanizing her in any way. She knows she's amazing, she knows the power that she has so she doesn't need to show it as false sense of bravado.
The most you should ever expect back from your chivalry, is appreciation, by a simple "thank you" for being a gentleman.