Tuesday, September 30, 2014

B Beautiful's Essentials To Live By

Nobody has the book on what or how your life is meant to be lived. Nobody has the right answers.

There isn't an exact formula that can fit everyone perfectly, but there are a few essentials that everyone should embrace in their life. 

This is B Beautiful's Essentials To Live By:  

Be Yourself

I've always been a big believer an advocator for being yourself. For loving the exact person you're regardless of the situation, thoughts or opinions of others. Your uniqueness and idiosyncrasies should be of great value to you. Embrace whatever it's that makes you, YOU! Everything you are has purpose in this life

A Standard Of Perfection...How About A Standard For Life  

When we came into this world there was an unspoken promise made. The promise that was made and still exists for EVERYONE today is that life isn't going to be perfect, or will ever be close to perfection. 

This next statement is said many times and I say this with fear of sounding like broken record "there is no such thing as perfection" It's unfortunate that we live in a world that is based on the ideals of perfection and quick to point out what isn't. Don't set yourself up to fail or for disappointment with a standard of perfection, life is just too short, your thoughts are far too powerful in influencing your world for them to be negative. 

Instead set yourself up for your own standard of excellence. Achieve it, reach it, even topping it a few times.  Remember that even in the moments of the messiest of imperfections,  life has its own path and will direct you to the exact place you're meant to be. Life may not be perfect, but it brings with it many blessings, lessons, moments of happiness and hardships that make the imperfection worth it.   


Live In The Moment 

There is a lot of time in this world...we have 24 hours in a day, which works out to 86,400 seconds, but all this time gets erased in a single one of those seconds. Don't spend a large amount of that time thinking about the past, stressing about what is going to happen in the next 5 minutes, just live in the moment and breathe it in. Embrace it with every part of you, do what YOU want because there are moments that are just too precious to let pass by, without fully taking them in before they're gone.

Belief In Your Self Is Crucial   

As corny as it sounds, the belief you have in yourself, is the most important one you'll come across in your lifetime. You have a lot of power in your life, while  you don't hold all the cards, you still play an extremely important role. The belief in yourself is the one that will keep you fighting, moving, striving forward, it's the little voice or push that you get, in moments of darkness and fear. The powerful force that you can use, when the odds are stacked against you...Your own secret weapon, that solely dedicated  to you! 

What are some of your essential rules or tips to live by?

Monday, September 29, 2014

B Love: Why Does SHE Stay?

Why does she stay, when she knows he's cheating on her? I'm not necessarily talking about the guy that cheats once, realizing the horrible mistake that he's made, the couple works it out, works on their marriage/relationship daily as not to have it break down again. I'm talking about the guy that is the serial cheater, when caught he begs for her forgiveness, swears that it's going to be different this time. It's different for the first few months perhaps a year, soon things slide and he's back to the cheating again.

She's beautiful, she's smart, she is kind, she is everything that any man could ever want in a woman. She could get any man that she wants because she is that incredible, so why does she stay with a no good cheating scoundrel? Staying with a serial cheater defies logic, yet she always continues to take him back, she is an intelligent woman but she can't seem to figure this one out, she hates the fact that he cheats on her, each time it happens she swears that it's the last time and she's done for good this time! Yet, they end up back together.  Why?

We usually have to go way back in time to find the answer to this question. Familiarity is winning over logic. Many times the answer lies in the fact that it's a situation in which she is familiar with, as in something that happened in her life from the age of 0-5, we often tend to carry on the mistakes that happened around us in the early years, because that is what is familiar to us. No matter how much that she hates the situation that happened with her family or parents. Not that this is ever allowed to be an excuse, the cycle keeps repeating itself until someone acknowledges it, takes a stand, doing the necessary work to stop the cycle, otherwise it continues from generation to generation. This isn't one of those deals that you don't get a free pass to blame your parents either, because no matter what happened, they too are on their individual journeys, they didn't have any more, (usually less knowledge) about the cycle. 

The science that is now behind the facts just can't be ignored. 

Parents do the best that they can, with what is given to them, I know that it's hard to actually look at your parent, seeing them as simply a woman or a man, with less information on how to make relationships more successful. You see them as mom or dad, and have probably asked for their wisdom in many cases growing up, appreciating the knowledge that they passed down to you.

No matter how much that parents try to hide the places in their relationship that have broken down, from their children, kids may not understand exactly what they see, but they see everything. There is some really interesting science that has been done regarding children, and their cognitive abilities being impaired because of a relationship that isn't healthy at home, that is for a different article though. Parents that use the excuse "we're staying together for the children" really need to look at the science, because it's disproving that statement at an alarming rate.

Stopping the cycle begins with acknowledging the behaviour, burying our head in the sand is never a viable option. If this is your situation there are always options, life is too short to live in a crappy relationship. Fixing it only works when both people are invested in the same outcome, where both people are willing to do the work to fix the situation. It's a situation that takes patience, honesty, and trying to rebuild the trust, which will never be they way that it was previously. A plate smashed on the floor can be repaired, but it will never be exactly the way that it was before being smashed. 

If the relationship isn't worth repairing then ending it is the next logical choice, allowing both people to move on. If the 'said' person won't stop cheating, or if forgiveness isn't possible it's time to pack it in. 

We're flooded with information and knowledge these days, it's everywhere, help is only an email or telephone call away. Anything that happens around us or to us, is our responsibility to change if we don't like it, there is something to be learned from every situation regardless of how uncomfortable or painful that we perceive it to be at the time.  Staying stuck in any situation is a disservice to ourselves, no experience is meant to leave us paralyzed in fear, angry or being resentful hurts us the most.

We as always, are here to help, if you find yourself in this situation, not knowing how to move on or which direction to go contact us at thebbbexperience@gmail.com we would love to help.

Changing the world, one person and one relationship at a time. 

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Pumpkin Cookies With Vanilla Bean Icing

Fall is upon us...

And it doesn't get much better than fall baking

So BBB wants to celebrate with you, our recipe for pumpkin cookies with ...
vanilla bean icing

Also don't forget to check out our most recent
B Men

The Recipe  

1 Cup Of Butter

1/2 Cup Of Sugar

1/2 Of Brown Sugar

1 Egg 

1 tsp Of Vanilla 

1 Cup Of Canned Pumpkin Puree 

2 Cups Of Unbleached Flour 

1 tsp  Baking Soda

1/2 tsp Nutmeg 

1/2 tsp Cloves 

1/2 tsp  Ginger

Pinch Of Salt 

1 Tbsp Cinnamon 

Pre-heat oven to 350

1. In a bowl  mix together butter and sugar, until fluffy and combined. To that mixture add vanilla, egg and pumpkin. Combine. Set aside  

2.  In another bowl sift flour, baking soda, nutmeg, cloves, ginger and cinnamon

3. Add flour mixture into other ingredients, mix until fully combined. Once mixed,  lightly grease a cookie sheet or line with parchment paper. Take a large spoon for measuring out cookies. 

Place your cookies on the cookie sheet

Put in oven for 10 - 12 Minutes (Ours took 12)

For the icing!   

Use your favorite cream cheese icing recipe, replace the vanilla, with half of a vanilla bean instead! 
This really does make the icing that much more fabulous 

Once your cookies are done, let them cool then add the icing! 

Icing or not..these cookies are easy, simple and delicious


Wednesday, September 24, 2014

B Men: Things You Need To Teach Your Sons

How To Respect Women Women have just as much of a part in making this world go round as you do, regardless of your relationship with them, they deserve the same amount of respect as anyone else. They're not objects for the taking or staring, they're meant to be your counterpart and equal in this life.   

You will get your heart broken, learn from the experience, letting it teach you what it's supposed to, moving on from it, forgiveness is the key.

Treat Those How You Would Like To Be Treated 

It's ok to show your emotions. According to a study done by the

 AFSP, males are 4 times more likely than women to commit suicide. It didn't specify how this came to be, but we could look at the major difference in how males are raised. They are raised to always be strong, never show weakness. Men aren't often raised to articulate their emotions, the way that women are. Women grow up constantly talking about how we FEEL. 

Every young man should know that it's ok to cry, that it's ok to express his emotions, in fact, its encouraged. Having open communication with a parent, especially the same sex parent is key.

To be able to express your vulnerability to your woman, showing that you have needs, is actually a sign of great strength.

It's ok to not be tough all the time. There's no such thing as holding everything together, all at once, all the time. Don't be so hard on yourself when things aren't perfect, this is human, it's ok.

Everything works out in the end, if it hasn't worked out, it isn't the end. (~unknown)

The difference between how men think and how women think. This one is important, because once a young man understands how women think VS how men think, he will have better success with women through his entire life. Men tend to think from A to B, if there is a problem, they want the closest road to a solution. Whereas women tend to think from A to B, C & D.... we will assess all angles of any given situation, analyze it, assess some more, then make a decision.

 Women are natural born communicators, with our emotions, with our days, with everything, the sooner you discover how to sit and listen the happier you will be, trust us. This doesn't mean you can't talk, this just means LEARN THE VALUE IN LISTENING.

Choose a woman that gives you the same respect that you give her. A woman that is on your team, a woman that holds your dream in her heart, right along with her own.

Do not allow the world that you live in to be ruled by FEAR. To live in a fearful state impedes your beliefs to a small box.

Perspective is everything, a situation is only as good or as bad as you make it. Teach the power of one's mind and the ability to change the power of any situation, simply with a change of perspective, you're helping with every stressful situation they may encounter.

Be accepting of others. Not everyone in the world is going to be like you, we're all different, it's in our differences that make us all unique.

The power in positivity, and how the law of attraction works. 

Don't be afraid to ask for direction or directions, there are many situations in life that the wheel has already been made, it doesn't need reinvention, learn everything you can from those that have gone before you. Expand on their ideas.

Respect isn't about power. Respect yourself, respect others, respect those who don't respect you. Respect is about you, this doesn't mean you keep people around that don't respect you, in fact it means the opposite, you just use tact when you tell them where to go and how to get there. This means respect isn't conducive on the person you are dealing with, respect is about you and you alone. 

There are many ways to do a single thing, be aware of the differences, use what works best for you, it may be a combination of all the ways, it's perfectly okay to be different.

Handshake Currency It may seem like as time goes on something as small as a handshake may not be important, it may have been replaced with actual contracts BUT the handshake is still a currency in this world, its often the first impression and/or the last statement you make before departing.  This is why it's important to teach a proper handshake.

You will need to know how to throw a ball, be it a football, basketball, baseball, soccer ball or volleyball. Be able to catch a ball as well, as both are important in a game.

Be Confident In Who You Are    You are born and grow up to be the exact man you are meant to be! Regardless of what ever anyone says or has an opinion on, you are and will be on your own path, with qualities and faults that are perfect for you. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent " ~Eleanor Roosevelt  Be confident in the person and skin that you are in, embrace all your qualities! Be yourself.   

Be chivalrous, women love it, it never goes out of style.

Don't ever hit a woman, don't stay in a situation where you are being abused, ever.

Standing up for equality in the genders, that doesn't mean that men don't have their own equality issues, be an advocate for equality in humanity.  

Failure in life is simply a stepping stone, you're going to fail at something. It's only considered a failure if you give up, learn from the mistake and move on.

Don't ever give up on something you want in life, adversity prepares you to handle every next step, it's a process and a learning experience.

Take a stand for something that you believe, even if you're standing alone.

Search out the facts.

Don't watch main stream news, it's always colored by someone else's bias opinion.

Don't believe anything you hear, and only half of what you see.

Many of the beliefs that you hold will be passed down by your parents, question them, make sure that they're a correct representation of the man that you are, or want to be.

Don't be a sheeple, you have a mind use it.

You're smarter than you think.

Success isn't paved simply by a college or university degree.

Be cautious about taking a shitty job, something that you take as a 'time filler' can easily turn into a necessity.

Have a dream and follow it through, it won't be easy, but it will be worth it!

Set goals and dream BIG! Set smaller goals that lead to your overall big picture.

You Won't Always Win, But You'll Never Lose.

Out of every experience there is something to be gained or learned, even in the greatest moments of defeat there is a lesson somewhere inside of that. Search for it, think about it, be honest with yourself about it and you'll find you gained a whole new outlook on every experience.

Being a man of your word, is always relevant.

Don't start fights, but definitely finish them when the situation calls for it.

Live with integrity.

Be a leader, taking one for the team is very relevant. Favorite sports heros are always the players that went the extra mile, that rallied the players when they were down by 2, with only seconds left ticking down on the clock.

Don't be afraid to take chances, again the only way you lose is if you give up. Don't quit!

Give an heartfelt apology when you are wrong. The word "sorry" doesn't cut it.

Try to put yourself in the other persons shoes, before you make a judgement. 

Be disciplined.